| How To Make Your Move
Easier on Your Family |
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People
generally have two kinds of needs
during a home purchase. First are
the transactional needs, such as
searching for a home, obtaining
financing, negotiating the terms of
purchase, completing paperwork and
legal documents, and arranging the
move. The second are emotional needs
that are involved in a home
purchase, which can be where the
most stress occurs in a home
purchase. The following are just a
handful of tips to help you and your
family ease the stress of moving. |
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· Prepare your
children |
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Although you may have lived
in your current residence for just a
few years, the same few years can be
half the lifetime of a seven- or
eight-year-old, and can include all
the years he or she can remember.
Your current residence may be the
only home your children have ever
known, where they feel safe and
comfortable. It may be the center of
your childrens' world.
Be
sure to announce the move in a
completely positive way. You might
talk about how beautiful the
neighborhood is and how good the
schools are. Bring your children to
the new house, if you live close
enough that it is possible to do so.
Otherwise, positively describe the
new house. Find out what your
children's favorite things are in
your current home, and then try to
re-create them in the new home. Keep
your children actively involved in
the process. For instance, don't
just promise that they can decorate
their new rooms, but take them
shopping for paint, bedspreads,
carpets, and other items that will
make the experience more fun and
comforting.
Your
children are bound to have worries,
fears, and sorrows during the move.
They may be moving away from friends
and family they have known their
whole lives. Find ways to make
parting pleasant. You can plan a
going-away party and let your
children invite their own guests.
Take pictures of everyone and create
a photo album. If your children are
old enough, allow them to take
pictures of the neighborhood that
they will want to remember. |
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· Gain
knowledge |
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You may feel a sense of
being out of control, as though
other parties to the purchase
transaction are running the show and
you're merely getting in their way.
Your mortgage company, the
appraiser, the inspector, and the
seller all have certain powers to
approve or disapprove of your
overall plan to purchase this home
and move successfully. This is
certainly not easy!
Although this can feel stressful,
one of the best things you can do
for your own peace of mind is to
understand as much of the purchase
process as possible. Your RealtorŪ
will be able to prepare you for
unknowns ahead of time and tie down
loose ends as soon as possible.
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· Trust the
process |
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There can be so much to do
that it's easy to panic. It may feel
like you're taking a big risk, but
the truth is that you're initiating
a big opportunity for you and your
family. Even though you can't
predict what will happen every step
of the way, your RealtorŪ helps
people buy and sell homes as a
profession! Your RealtorŪ has been
there before and understands that
this is a major upheaval in your
life. Trust that your RealtorŪ is
looking out for you on your way to a
successful closing and move. |
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· Be flexible |
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Knowing that your RealtorŪ
will do everything possible to
prepare you for the various
processes involved in your home
purchase, and will tie up those
loose ends quickly and efficiently,
it's important for you to remember
that there is no such thing as a
perfect world. The property
inspection may reveal areas of
concern, or closing may be delayed
for some reason. Try to take a deep
breath and be flexible in your
thinking. You will have a much
greater chance of making your
decisions based on logic and not
high emotion. |
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· Seek
entertainment |
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Whenever you feel that
things are spinning out of control,
find a diversion! Take a walk around
your new neighborhood, go on a day
trip out of town with your family,
or take your family to a movie.
Whatever diversion or outlet works
best for you, this is a good time to
engage in it! Remember to take one
"move" at a time. |
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